From Concept to Lived Architecture — Applying Identity Over Time
The Be · Do · Have practice endures because it is far removed from the generic, and especially because it can hold scale — not just as a reflective exercise, but as a macro life-design architecture.
This post moves from theory into lived practice.
What follows is:
- the full Be · Do · Have activity, step by step
- an explanation of why each stage exists
- a real personal Be · Do · Have list, completed four years ago
- and the learning that emerges when identity is allowed to unfold over time
The insights from our training transcripts position this practice less as motivation, and more as structural self-leadership.
1. Why This Is a Macro Practice (Not a Quick Exercise)
Most goal-setting tools are designed for immediacy.
Be · Do · Have is designed for coherence across decades.
It works at scale because it:
- separates identity from urgency
- allows contradiction without collapse
- holds ambition without forcing execution
- reveals long arcs of becoming
The insights from our training transcripts emphasise that this practice is most powerful when treated as a living document, instead of a one-time task.
2. The Full Be · Do · Have Activity (Macro Version)
Stage 1 — Unfiltered Capture
Write down everything desired to be, do, or have.
No editing. No hierarchy. No judgement.
This stage opens subconscious material and reveals unspoken longings.
Stage 2 — Meaning Check
For each item, write one sentence explaining why it matters.
If the “why” cannot be articulated, the item is paused.
This filters noise without suppressing desire.
Stage 3 — Life Area Definition
Define the life domains that matter most (family, health, work, spirituality, etc.).
Then define what success means in each.
This anchors aspiration to lived reality.
Stage 4 — Alignment Scoring
Ask of each item:
Will this improve the life areas I deem important?
Score one point per “yes”.
This introduces discernment without dismissal.
Stage 5 — Ethical & Systemic Check
Ask:
- Is this right and fair to those within my sphere of influence?
- Does this move me closer to my overall direction?
This prevents success that fractures relationships or integrity.
Stage 6 — Prioritisation
Select the top 10 goals only.
Then categorise them into:
- ongoing (daily input)
- short-term
- medium-term
- long-term
This restores focus and protects energy.
Stage 7 — Expanded Why
Each top goal receives a fully articulated why.
This deepens commitment and stabilises motivation.
Stage 8 — Dual Action Lists
For each goal, list:
- what is willingly offered
- what is realistically required
This exposes gaps between desire and capacity.
Stage 9 — Support Mapping
Identify:
- people
- skills
- learning
- actions
- understanding required
This reframes success as relational and developmental, not solitary.
Stage 10 — The Rocking-Chair Test
Project forward to age 82.
Write the story of a life well lived.
This step integrates meaning, legacy, and perspective.
3. A Personal Be · Do · Have List (Completed Four Years Ago At End Of Post***)
What follows is presented less as aspiration, and more as evidence.
The list included:
- identity qualities (discipline, truthfulness, resilience, devotion, mastery)
- expansive ambitions (coaching, travel, leadership, artistry, service)
- physical practices (martial arts, movement, rehabilitation, consistency)
- spiritual anchoring
- relational integrity
- global impact
- material sufficiency without excess
What stands out in hindsight is not what appeared — but how the Be column quietly governed the rest.
Many “Have” items shifted, softened, or fell away.
The “Be” items remained remarkably stable.
The insights from our training transcripts reflect this pattern repeatedly:
identity-led goals endure; outcome-led goals mutate or dissolve.
4. What Four Years Reveals***
Four years on, several truths become clear:
- not all goals are meant to be achieved
- some goals are meant to shape the person attempting them
- many outcomes arrive indirectly
- integrity-based aspirations age well
- externally validated ambitions often lose urgency
Be · Do · Have did not create certainty.
It created direction without rigidity.
5. Coaching Insight: Why This Practice Works Long-Term
In coaching contexts, this macro practice:
- reduces anxiety around “doing it all”
- allows seasons of focus
- supports ethical ambition
- integrates spirituality, body, work, and service
- prevents burnout-driven success
The insights from our training transcripts consistently show that clients who engage with this practice report greater calm, coherence, and trust in their own timing.
In Essence
Be · Do · Have at macro scale is far removed from achievement.
It is about:
- authorship
- coherence
- identity-led action
- ethical ambition
- long-horizon wholeness
It does not ask:
“What should I do next?”
It asks:
“Who am I becoming — and what naturally follows from that?”
Key Learning Points
- Be · Do · Have functions best as a long-term, living practice.
- Identity anchors behaviour more reliably than outcomes.
- Macro practices reduce urgency-driven burnout.
- Revisiting the list reveals maturation rather than failure.
- Ethical and relational checks protect coherence.
- The Rocking-Chair Test integrates legacy and meaning.
Action Points
- Complete the Be · Do · Have practice without time pressure.
- Revisit the list annually to observe identity evolution.
- Use alignment scoring to sequence, not suppress, ambition.
Keywords
be do have activity, macro goal setting, identity led living, applied wholeness, long term vision practice, coaching identity work, rocking chair test, life architecture, Enasni Connections
*** 4 years Ago – My Personal List
Be
1. Consistent with my workouts
2. Consistent in keeping my space serene
3. Minimising with my wardrobe
4. Transitioned to one style (Monochrome: blazer, black jeans, shoes, plain white shirt, or, if formal, a turtleneck, multicultural variations of same style)
5. Masterful with my knowledge of D+E
6. A reader of all the books I’ve purchased
7. Successful in my industry
8. Be truthful – let my yes be yes, and my no be no
9. A legendary individual
10. Like Jesus, and true to myself
11. Emotionally resilient
12. Adaptable to any situation
13. High quality in all I do
14. Master of resistance bands
15. Reliable in my relationship with Jehovah
16. Master of the Bible
17. A travelling life Development and Improvement Specialist
18. Someone who wakes at 4 a.m. daily to meditate and stretch
19. Follow up meditation with body movement.
20. Eater before workouts, after body movement
21. Practitioner of divine love and respect daily
22. Be a reliable person
23. Non-abuser in emotional contexts
24. Speaker of less, with authority
25. Efficient task master in their completion
26. Lover before seeking love in return
27. Master of human anatomy
28. A nurse and doctor on the side
29. Full-time entrepreneur within Enasni ecosystem
30. A travelling athlete
31. A world traveller
32. A cyclist in London ✅
33. An actress in my own films
34. A film producer of my own films
35. A screenwriter
36. Performer in a play
37. Practise Pencak Silat
38. Practise Muay Thai
39. Practise Krav Maga
40. Practise Wing Chun
41. Master self-discipline
42. A dancer – graceful and refined
43. A music producer – create my own music and collaborate
44. A fashion icon like Wintour and Lagerfeld
45. An activist for diversity issues
46. First Black female Prime Minister
47. A polyamorous lover
48. A servant of Christ and Jehovah
49. A blessing as a daughter and sister
50. A true lover
51. DIE to the influential
52. DIE coach for the NHS
53. A professional collaborator
54. A Liberal Democrat life coach
55. Co-owner of a health clinic with Emma
56. A pianist
57. A drummer
58. A guitarist
59. A squat master
60. Be content with nothing
Do
1. Meditate daily at noon before lunch
2. Avoid using “I” and “you” in daily speech
3. Speak only when necessary
4. Write my thoughts rather than speaking them
5. Practise my rehabilitation programme daily
6. Follow a full-body workout daily
7. Combine resistance workouts with cycling
8. Functional training thrice a week
9. Launch a podcast series with Pete
10. Take drumming lessons
11. Take guitar lessons
12. Explore the meaning of Health & Wellness
13. Slow down and master my energy
14. Visit my family monthly
15. Travel to Cameroon to be family leader
16. Use PowerDot daily – first thing in the morning and last thing at night
17. Order food without financial worry
18. Sleep by midnight, be in bed by 11 p.m.
19. Refrain from sex unless marriage infant of God + Man is involved
20. Work remotely as a DIE
21. Host live virtual events
22. Collaborate with Igor and Colleen
23. Learn 10 languages – master Spanish by the end of the year
24. Travel to Portugal for New Year and Tokyo for three weeks
25. Visit New York + Providence
26. Pay off loans
27. Clear my credit card debt
28. Send my mother £500 per month by the end of March next year
29. Swim weekly, or even daily
30. Send Bidjeck £100 per month
31. Repay my uncle £990
32. Register MEVAMEVA
33. Start coaching prospects in May
34. Write to each prospect by the second week of May
35. Maintain a minimalist personal space
36. Finish coding the Plus module
37. Call my mother twice a week – either Monday/Tuesday or Saturday/Sunday
38. Post One Piece reviews
39. Write on Health & Wellness principles
40. Clean my room daily meticulously
41. Visit Dakar to see Alex
42. Drink 2–3 litres of water daily
43. Post knee recovery progress on TikTok
44. Post MEVAMEVA on Instagram
45. Organise a photoshoot inspired by “The Generation” idea + Madonna’s black-and-white “Save the World” video
46. Earn a distinction in coaching✅
47. Move to Corfu between May and October next year
48. Help Suzy financially
49. Assist Raj with law and Lib Dem candidates
50. Do sit-ups daily
51. Do pull-ups daily
52. Take ice baths every Wednesday
53. Fight in different martial arts disciplines as a drifter, just for fun
54. Dance after daily meditation
55. Maximise every hour
56. Read a new book every three days
57. Reject greed, lust, wrath, pride, and sloth
58. Cultivate virtues: prudence, fortitude, justice, temperance
59. Embrace hope, faith, charity
60. Exercise patience, humility, diligence, kindness, chastity, and temperance
Have
1. Freedom of movement
2. Financial freedom to do as I wish
3. A family home overlooking the ocean
4. A family home in or near London
5. A bicycle
6. A driving licence
7. British citizenship (dual nationality)
8. My own company
9. A diary filled with coaching clients
10. Mastery in martial arts
11. Self-love
12. Success
13. Financial stability
14. Physical stability
15. Knowledge of coaching
16. Honest testimonials from clients
17. Strong glutes
18. An abundance of food
19. An abundance of drinks
20. Wisdom surpassing that of King Solomon
21. An open heart
22. £15,000 in my bank account at all times at absolute minimum
23. A subscription to CURIOUS + AG1 supplements
24. A book on the 8 Dimensions of Human Existence (8DOHE) published by the end of 2024
25. A studio flat I own
26. Patience
27. Self-discipline
28. Awareness
29. Public speaking skills
30. A business partner
31. Regular contact with Bill Gates, Tony Robbins, and Beyoncé
32. Meetings with Kristen Stewart & Cate Blanchett
33. Music industry influence to support Brianna’s career
34. A 10-person crew: Cook, Musician, Mapper, Accountant, Coder, Text Writer, Business Manager, Social Media Manager, People Person, Health & Fitness Coach
35. A coaching diploma as proof of legitimacy
36. A captain’s hat
37. The life of a true nomad
38. A private jet
39. A black horse
40. A beach house
41. Access to those I love and who love me
42. The ability to save lives
43. Access to the influential and powerful
44. Access to the marginalised and imprisoned
45. The power to facilitate rehabilitation
46. A legacy remembered when I return
47. Beast mode on tap
48. A sharp mind
49. A responsive body
50. Online sex education classes
51. A GoPro for travel
52. An opportunity to make amends with Brianna
53. The power to defend my name
54. Fame to open doors
55. Strength to protect those I love
56. Limitless resources to aid those in need
57. Focus at all times
58. Peace and harmony
59. Control over chaos